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The Ex-Gay Industry

Sunday, March 1, 2009

If you're gay and Christian, you've probably been through the struggle or are now going through the struggle to become heterosexual. You know the scam.

They tell you the Bible condemns homosexuality and you can't be saved and gay. You trust them because they're older and wiser and they're supposed to know what they're talking about.

So you struggle to change. You read ex-gay propaganda. You visit ex-gay websites. You try to pray away the gay and you strengthen your resolve and positively affirm, "I'm not gay!" And if you or your family has enough money, you get into an Ex-Gay program and struggle in community.

And soon you're $10,000 poorer and still gay.

So you struggle with disappointment and disillusionment and decide you have to back off from your Christianity. After all, God wanted you to change - that's what all the smart Christians told you - and you couldn't change - even after spending $10,000 on an Ex-Gay program specifically designed to help you change.

And inside you a conflict grows. Some of the people who ran the Ex-Gay program were sincere Christians. Yet what they taught didn't work for you. And it didn't work for the others who endured the Ex-Gay ministry.

If some of you who never fell for the Ex-Gay myth and never spent the $10,000 trying to change are feeling a little superior at this point, I don't blame you.

Years ago, many of us bought into the lie that you can't be gay and Christian. Some bought into the additional lie that if you're gay, you have to essential reject the Bible to be a Christian.

For some of us, the hard work of trying to become heterosexual seemed worthwhile because it was pitched as God's will. Preachers told us that gay is always wrong and God doesn't bless the sin of being gay.

Discouraged, alone, confused, I began to read and study the Bible and the clobber passages. I determined to find the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help me God.

It was not an easy road. But God had a secret weapon to show me His way. God's secret weapon was the Holy Spirit. As I studied the Bible, the Holy Spirit began to make things clear to me. He pointed out the context of the clobber passages and taught me to interpret scripture beginning with the situation it originally addressed.

A moment of wisdom came when I started recognizing the red flags.

- I started avoiding ministries which parroted anti-gay rhetoric while refusing to read the clobber passages in context.

- I started avoiding the false claimers - the ex-gay ministries which promised change from homosexual to heterosexual.

- I became wary of ex-gay ministries which subtly stopped promising orientation change but continued to charge thousands of dollars for their programs.

- I started noticing that the people leading the ex-gay ministries, even the ex-gays now heterosexually married - publicly claimed to still have homosexual longings and attractions.

It was like a light bulb went on in my head.

If these people had really changed from homosexual to heterosexual, wouldn't their sexual temptations now be heterosexual?

If their sexual temptations were still homosexual, wasn't that proof positive that they were still homosexually oriented?

Think about it.

Heterosexuals don't go through life struggling with homosexual temptation.

Homosexuals don't go through life struggling with heterosexual temptation.

I changed my views about the Ex-Gay industry. I realized that if I bought into their lies, I would become like them. I would have to participate in their Ponzi scheme.

I would have to pretend to be changed, knowing all the while that I was not changed. Having come out of the closet once, if I followed the ex-gay rhetoric, I would have to go back into the metaphysical closet and spend the rest of my life there.

As an ex-gay I would have to follow ex-gay methodology. I would have to promote change while knowing deep in my heart, that I had not changed. I would have to live a lie with a smile on my face and despair in my heart. I would have to join the Ponzi scheme, promoting the same wicked lies to other gays and lesbians.

And frankly, the thought of doing that sickened me.

It dawned on me that the Holy Spirit did not bear witness in my heart to the truth of the ex-gay lies. I wanted an honest life, lived in the power of the Holy Spirit, without subterfuge and deception.

I didn't want to embrace the false hope of change so that Christians who refused to read the Bible in context would like me again.

I didn't want to soothe their feelings to gain their acceptance. God's truth never goes along to get along. If God's truth makes you uncomfortable, the problem isn't with God's truth. The problem is with you and you need to change because God's truth will not change.

Things didn't improve right away.

Spiritual life continued to be difficult while I studied and learned and grew in knowledge of God, the Bible and myself. Friends I had known for years began to drift away, quietly breaking fellowship. Most of them never had the courage to say why they broke off our friendship but I know it was over the gay issue.

I began to make new friends. And I noticed that God still blessed me and still answered my prayers. The attitude of some of my Baptist friends toward me had changed but God's loving attitude toward me never changed. God was always there, faithful and consistent.

Read my Coming Out story.

Helpful information about Coming Out.


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  讀書使人充實,討論使人機智,筆記使人準確。因此不常作筆記者須記憶特強,不常討論者須天生聰穎,不常讀書者須欺世有術,始能無知而顯有知。讀史使人明智,讀詩使人靈秀,數學使人周密,科學使人深刻,倫理學使人莊重,邏輯修辭之學使人善辯:凡有所學,皆成性格。人之才智但有滯礙,無不可讀適當之書使之順暢,一如身體百病,皆可借相宜之運動除之。滾球利睾腎,射箭利胸肺,慢步利腸胃,騎術利頭腦,諸如此類。如智力不集中,可令讀數學,蓋演題須全神貫注,稍有分散即須重演;如不能辨異,可令讀經院哲學,蓋是輩皆吹毛求疵之人;如不善求同,不善以一物闡證另一物,可令讀律師之案卷。如此頭腦中凡有缺陷,皆有特藥可醫。 >

Of Study

  STUDIES serve for delight, for ornament, and for ability. Their chief use for delight, is in privateness and retiring; for ornament, is in discourse; and for ability, is in the judgment, and disposition of business. For expert men can exe-cute, and perhaps judge of particulars, one by one; but the general counsels, and the plots and marshalling of affairs, come best, from those that are learned. To spend too much time in studies is sloth; to use them too much for ornament, is affectation; to make judgment wholly by their rules, is the humor of a scholar. They perfect nature, and are perfected by experience: for natural abilities are like natural plants, that need proyning, by study; and studies themselves, do give forth directions too much at large, except they be bounded in by experience. Crafty men contemn studies, simple men admire them, and wise men use them; for they teach not their own use; but that is a wisdom without them, and above them, won by observation. Read not to contradict and confute; nor to believe and take for granted; nor to find talk and discourse; but to weigh and consider. Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested; that is, some books are to be read only in parts; others to be read, but not curiously; and some few to be read wholly, and with diligence and attention. Some books also may be read by deputy, and extracts made of them bothers; but that would be only in the less important arguments, and the meaner sort of books, else distilled books are like common distilled waters, flashy things.

  Reading make a full man; conference a ready man; and writing an exact man. And therefore, if a man write little, he had need have a great memory; if he confer little, he had need have a present wit: and if he read little, he had need have much cunning, to seem to know, that he doth not. Histories make men wise; poets witty; the mathematics subtitle; natural philosophy deep; moral grave; logic and rhetoric able to contend. Abeunt studia in mores. Nay, there is no stand or impediment in the wit, but may be wrought out by fit studies; like as diseases of the body, may have appropriate exercises. Bowling is good for the stone and reins; shooting for the lungs and breast; gentle walking for the stomach; riding for the head; and the like. So if a man\'s wit be wandering, let him study the mathematics; for in demonstrations, if his wit be called away never so little, he must begin again. If his wit be not apt to distinguish or find differences, let him study the Schoolmen; for they are cymini sectors. If he be not apt to beat over matters, and to call up one thing to prove and illustrate another, let him study the lawyers\' cases. So every defect of the mind, may have a special receipt.
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不妄語 綺語 兩舌 要平等恭敬

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悉怛多缽怛囉 不結婚 不讓人貪愛 可以環球367天

要 和睦相處 '平等對待

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讀書人怎樣論讀書呢? 我們不妨從西方名人對書所作的各種比喻中細心體
會一下, 也許能幫助我們讀書有嶄新的認識。


首先, 我們思想一下到底甚麼叫 "讀書" , 讀書的目的是為了甚麼?

亞里斯多德說: 人類需要三方面的知識-----理論﹑實用及鑒別的能力。

赫塞說: 學問就是分辦事物異同的能力。

魯巴金說: 讀書是在別人思想的幫助下, 建立起自己的思想。

培根說: 讀書不是為了雄辯和駁斥, 也不是為了輕信和盲從, 而是為了思

愛因斯坦說: 讀書是要找出可以使自己昇華的東西。

羅曼. 羅蘭說: 從來沒有戈讀書, 只有人在書中省察自己﹑發現自己和檢


讀書, 既耗時又費神, 何樂之有?

笛卡兒說: 讀一切的好書, 就是和許多高尚的人談話。

伊薩克. 巴羅說: 一個愛書的人, 他必不缺少忠實的朋友﹑良好的導師﹑

羅素說: 知識是使人類快樂的主要因素。

蘇格拉底說: 讀書是輕易把別人辛苦得來的經驗吸收進來。

培根說: 史鑒使人明智, 詩歌使人巧慧, 數學使人精細, 博物使人深沉,
倫理使人莊重, 邏輯與修辭使人善辯。


那麼, 應該怎樣讀書才能獲益呢?

史邁爾說: 學間之事, 功夫要精密, 解悟要透徹。蓋學問之益不在讀書之
多, 而在運用之熟。

伏爾泰說: 讀書多而不加思考, 就自以為知道得很多; 思考愈多時, 就發

狄斯雷利說: 多觀察, 多經驗, 多研究, 是學習中的三大棟樑。

貝靳斯說: 吊兒郎當的學習者並不勝於學習吊兒郎當的人。

最後, 還是佚名者說得最直接了當: 書, 對懶惰皂人是一堆廢紙, 對虛浮
的人是裝璜擺設, 只有對勤學的人才是無價寶貝。


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